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"I'm an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush." Caring For Your Introvert. THIS. ALL OF THIS. Everyone should read this. I've been having a lot of anxiety lately about how often I turn down social invitations, and thinking that this will make everyone think I'm a horrendous egotistical bitch. It's not true! I just like to be alone, with my ridiculous fantasy novels and my rodents. My introversion is even true on the internet, really. I see a lot of people forming very deep relationships through Live Journal, but I just have a very hard time doing that. I don't like chatting. It's hard to start a relationship if you just hate small talk. It's okay, I don't mind that I have relatively few close relationships. The ones I do have are so amazing that I don't see why anyone could possibly ask for more. But I just wanted everyone who has tried to reach out to me in the past who may have felt snubbed, or anyone who does this in the future, to know that I like you. I really do. I honestly only ever answer the phone for my mother, my sister, and my boyfriend. If you want to talk to me about deep philosophical issues, please do let me know. Until then, you will probably hear relatively little from me besides what I write in my posts, but you're all dear to me in my crazy introverted way. Never forget that.

[ profile] sarkastic is my soul mate. She also gave me quarters so that I can have clean underwear. I feel this deserves a shout-out.

Date: 2009-02-21 05:05 am (UTC)
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Oh, I remember reading this a while back and thinking how true it was for me! I sent it to my brother, who's an introvert too, and he loved it.

Date: 2009-02-21 05:09 am (UTC)
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I think I may print out copies of this article to hand out to people when conversations get awkward.

Date: 2009-02-21 05:16 am (UTC)
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Don't worry, I'm an introvert too. I completely understand.

Although I find Livejournal relationships are easier than others, because I don't have to be up and about, dressed up, worrying about appearances and awkward silences, &tc. If I don't know what to say to someone, I don't have to say it immediately, because it's not uncommon for people to reply to comments late. I don't talk to many of my LJ friends in chat, though; the "instant" part of IM makes it a bit more stressful if I don't know people well.

I should show that article to my mother, although I think the conversation we had about MBTI typing while she was here taking care of me in November was very helpful. We talked about our differing opinions on what "me time" is - she considers it "me time" to go out with her friends, where as I, obviously, consider that "friend time" and often need a lot of alone time to recuperate from it. Hopefully she's gotten the picture now =\

Date: 2009-02-21 05:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Second, when you see an introvert lost in thought, don't say "What's the matter?" or "Are you all right?"

Third, don't say anything else, either.

I don't think anyone could sum that up any better than that. Story of my freaking life.

Date: 2009-02-21 07:33 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hey Laurie! My name is Lova, and I'm an introvert too. So never fear, your introverted ways are understood and you're still adored. ♥ ;)

You may not notice it much on the internet but there all communication are at your own leisure, you know? I turn down most of the social invitations I receive irl because I just don't feel like it and would rather be home writing or reading. And up until the article you linked to I've always felt bad about it. So thank you.

Date: 2009-02-21 12:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
you answer your phone for me!!! but that's probably cause i only call like once every 2 months...

Date: 2009-02-21 07:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm an introvert, too.

Date: 2009-02-21 08:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Well I didn't want you smelling, you crazy introvert!

Date: 2009-02-22 12:19 am (UTC)
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First of all, I love how Peglet is your soul mate. I know you said it in a humorous fashion, but I bet it's true. There's something so damn pure and innocent and just gorgeous about that. *sigh* I wish I had a sister.

I'm an introvert, too. I'm in a small email group (7 people) that some people would love, love, love to be in on (it's got published writers - a bestselling author, blah, blah, blah)... Anyway, I don't respond to emails ever and they all email every day, it's almost like a chat room. I enjoy being a part of it, but I'm fine not saying anything. If someone asks me a question, or I feel like saying something, I respond to that individual. I'm content to sit and take everything in.

I don't go anywhere ever. If I'm on AIM or something, it's for the company, not conversation. I just like knowing that someone is in the same "airspace" that I am, but I don't want to chat, chat, chat.

I hate it when people ask me to go places. Hate it. My cell phone has been dead for 3 days AND I opt not to have voicemail (nor do we have a landline). If no one can leave a message, then I don't have to call anyone back!

You are totally not alone. I will never call you, never ask you to chat with me on AIM and never ever ask you to go out with me somewhere. *shudders*
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